know how to date effectively!
One of my clients asked me this in an email last week, "How many frogs do I need to kiss to finally meet my prince?"
First, I'll give you the short answer to the literal and metaphorical (physical kissing and getting emotionally invested) interpretation of the question - how many frogs do you need to kiss?
The answer is only one. When you're attracting deliberately, not by default, the next frog you choose to kiss will be your prince.
Now I just want to reiterate there aren't any sure-fire rules here. With deliberate attraction all you need is clarity about what you want and to be in alignment with that clarity. So I may tell you what my experience has been and what worked for me but if that isn't in alignment with you, then that's perfectly okay, too. But clarity and alignment is key.
That being said, deliberate attraction is all about dating smart. You may not go on as many dates with as many different people but the people you do date will be closer to what you're looking for. And you will know whether you're a good fit sooner so you don't get too energetically and emotionally attached prematurely.
It's a good idea to have as much clarity about what you want in your partner before you get out into the dating world. Have your list - what are your must haves and must nots AND where can you be totally open to what the Universe brings you?
The initial dating process will be just to meet "prospects" so to speak to see if you're both on the same page in relationships and in life. It's helpful to get as much information as you can (like the must haves and must nots) ASAP - either on the first phone calls, first emails, or that first date.
Then if all the initial, essential qualities and requirements are there then you might choose to go out with him again. When you're attracting deliberately it's beneficial to allow the initial dating stage to be about getting to know each other without getting too emotionally and physically involved. This conserves your emotional energy, especially if you're dating multiple people.
So before you think about kissing another frog - answer these questions:
What do I need from a potential partner before I allow myself to get emotionally and physically invested in another relationship?
What personal boundaries do I have before that's been established?
What does deliberate dating look like for me?
With clarity around what you need in a partner, in a relationship, and the boundaries that you have already in place I'm confident that you will begin dating consciously and won't go around picking up just any ol' frog to kiss again.
First, I'll give you the short answer to the literal and metaphorical (physical kissing and getting emotionally invested) interpretation of the question - how many frogs do you need to kiss?
The answer is only one. When you're attracting deliberately, not by default, the next frog you choose to kiss will be your prince.
Now I just want to reiterate there aren't any sure-fire rules here. With deliberate attraction all you need is clarity about what you want and to be in alignment with that clarity. So I may tell you what my experience has been and what worked for me but if that isn't in alignment with you, then that's perfectly okay, too. But clarity and alignment is key.
That being said, deliberate attraction is all about dating smart. You may not go on as many dates with as many different people but the people you do date will be closer to what you're looking for. And you will know whether you're a good fit sooner so you don't get too energetically and emotionally attached prematurely.
It's a good idea to have as much clarity about what you want in your partner before you get out into the dating world. Have your list - what are your must haves and must nots AND where can you be totally open to what the Universe brings you?
The initial dating process will be just to meet "prospects" so to speak to see if you're both on the same page in relationships and in life. It's helpful to get as much information as you can (like the must haves and must nots) ASAP - either on the first phone calls, first emails, or that first date.
Then if all the initial, essential qualities and requirements are there then you might choose to go out with him again. When you're attracting deliberately it's beneficial to allow the initial dating stage to be about getting to know each other without getting too emotionally and physically involved. This conserves your emotional energy, especially if you're dating multiple people.
So before you think about kissing another frog - answer these questions:
What do I need from a potential partner before I allow myself to get emotionally and physically invested in another relationship?
What personal boundaries do I have before that's been established?
What does deliberate dating look like for me?
With clarity around what you need in a partner, in a relationship, and the boundaries that you have already in place I'm confident that you will begin dating consciously and won't go around picking up just any ol' frog to kiss again.